Couples Therapy in Southport, CT
Helping couples stop fighting each other and start facing the problem together.
You've spent years putting your relationship last.
Between careers, kids, responsibilities, stress, and the endless demands of life, the connection that once felt natural has slowly gotten buried underneath everything else.
There are regular arguments, misunderstandings, or silence, and you both feel much more like roommates, coworkers, or co-parents than romantic partners. As a result, the spark feels harder to find, intimacy feels like a task (or let’s be real, nonexistent), and instead of feeling like it's the two of you against the problem, it feels like it's the two of you against each other.
"We're great parents, but terrible partners."
"I don't know how to talk about this without it becoming a fight."
“One of us (or both of us) has changed.”
"I feel guilty for wanting more."
"We love each other, but we don't really like each other right now."
"I don't feel like I’m a priority anymore."
“We are staying in the marriage for the kids”
Remember when it felt easier?
Conversations lasted for hours, and still, you never wanted them to end. You used to dream about the future together. Date nights didn't need to be scheduled three weeks in advance. It was a time when you felt like a team—both of you against the world.
But now, instead of creating something side by side and building a life together, it just feels like you’re managing one (or trying to survive a relationship that’s harder than it ever should be).
MY APPROACH
You can learn to hear each other differently.
A lot of the couples I work with still care deeply about each other, but things have happened—kids came into the picture, poor choices were made—and they're more than exhausted. It’s causing a ripple effect in every other area of their lives. That's where our work begins.
To create momentum within your relationship, we need to understand the "why." I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples understand the emotional patterns beneath the conflict. We'll start with a joint session, followed by an individual session with each partner, so I can get to know the person beyond the relationship and better understand the experiences they're bringing into it.
From there, we'll identify the cycle that's keeping you stuck and learn how to interrupt it. Together, we'll create meaningful goals, strengthen communication, and understand the role each person plays in the relationship—not because we're assigning blame, but because meaningful change requires ownership from both partners. For couples who value faith, we can also explore how your beliefs and shared values can support the work we're doing together.
Yes, sometimes the work is uncomfortable. But if you could solve these things on your own, you probably would have by now. So I take pride in providing a space to bring the heavy stuff into the room and help you work through it with guidance from a professional instead of tackling it with no progress.
Couples therapy can help you:
Turn "we're just coexisting" into genuine connection
Break unhealthy patterns that keep pulling you further apart
Shift difficult conversations into productive ones
Remember what made you choose each other in the first place
Bring intimacy back into a relationship that's become all logistics
Create a relationship that feels supportive instead of exhausting
Stop having the same fight in different forms
Find each other underneath the resentment, stress, and misunderstandings
The strongest couples aren't the ones who never struggle—they’re the ones who know how to find each other through it.
FAQs
COMMON QUESTIONS
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Couples work is one of the areas of therapy I'm most passionate about. Using principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), I help couples get beneath the surface-level arguments and understand what's really happening underneath the frustration, distance, or disconnection.
I've worked with couples navigating everything from communication challenges and intimacy concerns to parenting stress, faith differences, and major life transitions. My role isn’t as a referee deciding who’s right and who's wrong—it's to help you understand the pattern you're stuck in so you can stop feeling like opponents and start feeling like a team again.
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Yes. Therapy is most effective when insight is paired with action. I believe much of the meaningful work happens outside of a session. So with that in mind, throughout our work together, you'll receive practical tools, communication exercises, reflection prompts, and goals designed to help you apply what we're discussing in real life.
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No. My role is not to make decisions for you. Instead, I help couples explore their relationship honestly, identify unhealthy patterns, improve communication, and gain clarity about what they want moving forward. That might mean wanting to strengthen your relationship, rebuild trust, or better understand your options. Therapy can provide a supportive space for any of those conversations.
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Absolutely. In fact, many couples come to therapy long before there’s a major crisis. (Regular day-to-day stuff is hard, too!) Often, couples still love each other deeply but feel more like roommates, co-parents, or business partners than a couple. Therapy helps pave the pathway toward changing that.
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You’ve come to the right place. Many couples come to therapy feeling torn between wanting to save the relationship and wondering if there isn’t anything left to repair. I am here for wherever you are.
My role isn't to convince you to stay together or tell you it's time to leave. I work to help you slow down, get honest about what's happening, and understand the patterns, hurt feelings, and unmet needs that brought you here.
Sometimes couples discover there's still a path forward, and sometimes they have a confirming perspective that the relationship has run its course. No matter the outcome, therapy can help you make thoughtful decisions that respect you both instead of emotionally reactive ones.
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Yes. Money is rarely “just” about money. Financial disagreements tend to touch deeper issues like trust, security, control, priorities, values, and partnership. I believe in using couples therapy to move beyond surface-level arguments and have more productive conversations about what money represents to each of you.
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Yes. In fact, please do. Couples sometimes wait years to bring up intimacy because they're worried about hurting each other's feelings, starting another argument, or confirming something is “wrong.” But sex is an important part of any romantic partnership, and when it's not working, it can affect so much more than the bedroom.
There’s no need for censorship or embarrassment. We’ll talk about what's really happening underneath the disconnect so you can stop avoiding the conversation and start understanding each other on an intimate level.
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It depends on your relationship and goals. It’s also important to recognize that some of the most important work comes in between sessions.
For couples experiencing frequent conflict, emotional distance, or major challenges, I often recommend weekly sessions. For others, biweekly sessions can provide the right balance of support and time to practice what we're working on between appointments. We’ll figure out what’s best for both of you.